Stop Chasing Better and Start Being Different

theresa rolen • January 15, 2025

Is It More Important To Be Better, Or To Be Different?

Be Different... Broker-owner Nick Schlekeway challenges real estate professionals to abandon the pursuit of being “better” and instead focus on being “different.” In his experience, aiming to be better often leads to a cycle of subjective comparison and playing by competitors’ rules. In contrast, being different allows you to create something unique, authentic, and aligned with your values. Schlekeway shares how his brokerage, Amherst Madison, gained traction by rejecting traditional models and crafting a bold, value-driven vision. Being different, however, is not without resistance. Critics, competitors, and systemic challenges will test your resolve, but Schlekeway urges embracing these trials as part of the process. He emphasizes the importance of owning and authentically telling your story to define your brand, build trust, and connect with your audience. Success, Schlekeway argues, isn’t about following a predefined map; it’s about forging your own path with purpose and perseverance. By committing to what makes you different, you can achieve meaningful, lasting success.


Why This Matters:

Standing out in a competitive industry requires authenticity and a willingness to challenge norms. By focusing on what makes you unique and communicating that effectively, you can build a business that resonates deeply with your clients and withstands industry challenges.


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